Freedom Expression


Posted in India, Indian Judiciary, Politicians, Politics, Rapists, Women Issues by Tall Guy on January 6, 2013



I and my friend were awaiting the arrival of the train, when he popped up the question of “What do you think of the Delhi gang rape?”

My first reaction was a “forced” silence that I thrusted upon myself with thoughts coming in my mind that no matter what I think about the issue, it will not end up making a difference.

As of now there is a lot of anguish among the people over the brutality of the incident that took place. How the life of a young girl with desires of fulfilling her dreams was abrupt cut short by men who unleash the beasts that resided within them.

It feels good that protests are being carried out throughout the nation demanding for better protection, to protect the rights of women and punish the culprits guilty of such heinous crime. The real question is will we be able to make that difference?

We, the Indian citizens suffer from short-term memory loss. Its like straight out of the movie Ghajini and donning the role of Amir Khan who lives in the reality for a short moment and is always clueless of his actions. We will vent out of fury, cry and make noise and then after a few days with our govt. making false assurances go back to our old ways as if nothing has happened.

India today is represented by inefficient, corrupt politicians for whom their own interests come first before the nation. The sad part is that none of the political parties can truly states that largest democratic country lives by the laws of “government of the people, by the people and for the people” the pillars of foundation for a democratic country.

Justice is dead in this country. The only place where people pin their hopes to get justice is our judicial system. Our courts is plagued by backlog of cases, shortage of judges to preside over court. The time the court takes to pass verdict often make people cynical and sarcastic. Wonder if justice can truly be delivered or the system is leveraged to benefit the corrupt/culprits as long as justice is delayed. Yet one only hears of talks of improving the system but no concrete progress has been made. Funnily though all of this does not stop the courts from going on vacations (set up during the British empire) even as justice is awaited…..

What do people in such a nation should do? Choose to look the other side? even though our so-called elected representatives are not doing the job they are supposed to. Are the people suppose to watch in silence like Gandhiji’s three monkeys “see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil”?

Its time to take a stand, make that difference that a nation needs from its people. The protest for the Delhi gang rape should not just stop there. Stating opinions will not make a difference unless followed by action. So the question now is what are we waiting for……

Bonus: The below ad rightly portrays the sentiment of India.

Which Direction Are We Going?

Posted in India, Mumbai, Women Issues by Tall Guy on November 20, 2011

Had read about this news about the Amboli killings and the reactions that it draw and only one thing comes to my mind is it going to remain fresh on the minds of the people later or is it going to be one of those incidents where the general public will voice their opinions/reactions but as the day passes it becomes a forgotten memory.

Has anybody given a thought about how to prevent such incidents to prevent in future or what steps need to be taken if one found themselves in such a situation?

I don’t think creating a facebook page or signing petitions are going to help. For such incidents we need to be practical and need to provide solutions which a person can use in case they find themselves in such position.

Merely going gaga over the episode is not going help only to be forgotten later. What happened to the Ruchika case, nobody remembers cause its not in news any more. That’s the sad part of our society.

If we want real changes to happen, we need to make them happen…………

Kanyadan & Pregnancy Connection

Posted in India, Women Issues by Tall Guy on May 28, 2010

Recently I met a friend of mine who told me of an incident which made me wonder about the mentality of the so called Indian society that we live in.  She told me about her cousin who recently got married.

The highlight of the wedding was the “kanyadan” which is normally done by the bride’s father/uncle/brother was done by her sister even though they had a cousin brother who could do it.  Apparently the murmurs began in the wedding itself and someone even called up the bride’s native place to tell about it.  The marriage though took place without any hitch.  However this was not the end.

After 3-4 months of marriage, people started inquiring with her mother-in-law whether the girl has got pregnant yet.  In fact the girl was also asked about it which made her wonder why such a question is being asked when only a few months had passed after marriage.  It later turned out that the reason why this was being asked was because the sister who did the “kanyadan” did not conceive for a long period of time and had adopted a child instead.  So the logic that went around was that the bride who got married may not be able to conceive as the kanyadan was done by sister who did not conceive.

The good news did come through as few months passed by putting a lid on all the talk that was going around.  It also came as a relief to the sister who was worried that she might end up getting a bad name in case the bride did not conceive.

To me, all this looks like straight out of a telly plot where such things were shown but never thought that they actually happen in the reality.  So what if the sister and brother-in-law did the kanyadan?  Who the hell are people to tell them what’s right and what’s wrong.  It’s a family decision on who does the kanyadan and other people don’t need to poke their nose into it regarding themselves as guardians of our culture.

I guess they need to be given a lesson in how cultures evolve and how each generation creates their own and leave it upon the future generations whether to follow or give it up.  Nobody has the “right” to enforce it on anyone.

The reasoning behind the bride won’t be able to conceive was simply irrational.  How can people be so dumb? And that the news spreads like fire even though there is no ounce of truth to support the claim is really shocking.  What surprises me more is that this did not happen in any rural village but in a metro city.

It almost comes like a farce where we keep talking about “21st century India” and we still look like living in “Old India” which is too rigid to give up its social conventions and does not gives an individual the choice of what he/she wants to do…..

Of Child Marriages & Teenage Pregnancies

Posted in India, Marriages, Women Issues by Tall Guy on March 27, 2010

There was a time in India when child marriages used to take place rampantly.  Children forced by their families to get married under the garb of the customs and tradition even as the couple was too young to understand the concept of marriage.

Child marriages have often resulted in serious health concerns for both the girl and her children as it is a widely accepted fact that adolescent mothers are more likely to experience complications such as obstetric fistula.

Today, we have moved past the issue of child marriage by introducing laws that term them unlawful and by raising the marriageable age of boy to 21 and girl 18.

Still there are places where this practice takes place mostly among poor uneducated families in rural areas.  As the awareness about the ill effects of child marriages spreads across, we can hope such marriages to become extinct in the future.

Though times have changed, the issue of teenage pregnancies still causes a lot of concerns.

Developed countries like US and UK are also dealing with the teenage pregnancies issues with US having the highest birth rate of teenage pregnancies among the developed world.  The numbers are surprising considering the fact that sex education taking place in schools.

There is the option of going for abortions but its considered risky.  Studies have proven that abortion may lead to an increased chance of breast cancer, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, depression, and the contraction of Viral Hepatitis, not to mention death due to excessive bleeding or other complications.

One may find similarities between the child marriage and teenage pregnancy as both leads to pregnancy at a young age.  Early marriages prevents a girl from getting the education and living the life she deserves and ends up managing the household.  In the latter case they end up compromising on their education and sometimes drop out to look after the child who may/may not be supported by the father of the child.  The only difference between the two is that one happens in the sanctity of marriage and other outside marriage.

Even as we are sounding the death knell for child marriages here in India.  The issue of teenage pregnancy is making its presence felt even though the numbers are small, as such cases largely goes unreported.

The only way to ensure to nip the issue in the bud is by providing sex education and the usages of birth control measures to stop it from snowballing.